I=I C'est quoi ça?

I=I, c’est quoi ça? La science est claire. Lorsqu’une personne vivant avec le VIH est traitée de façon efficace et possède une charge virale indétectable, il n’existe aucun risque de transmission sexuelle du VIH. Les temps ont changé, et c’est une excellente nouvelle!

L’Alliance pour la santé sexuelle des hommes gais jette un coup d’œil kitsch et mignon sur la façon dont les avancées dans les traitements du VIH changent notre pratique du sexe qui nous allume.

Cette vidéo véhicule le message d’I=I, ou indétectable = intransmissible. Le message d’I=I, développé par Prevention Access Campaign, offre la chance aux hommes gais et bisexuels d’accueillir une nouvelle ère de l’épidémie du VIH.

I=I permet à la communauté gaie de réfléchir et de célébrer les avancées dans la prévention, le traitement et les soins qui peuvent aider à mettre fin à l’épidémie de VIH. La clé pour mettre fin à l’épidémie de VIH est de mettre fin à la stigmatisation entourant le virus. Une façon importante d’aborder cette stigmatisation est d’être informé au sujet des réalités actuelles concernant le VIH et la science reliée au VIH.

Et la science est claire. Lorsqu’une personne vivant avec le VIH est traitée de façon efficace et possède une charge virale indétectable, il n’existe aucun risque de transmission sexuelle du VIH.

Pour plus d’informations, consultez le sites:

https://sexequitallume.ca/charge-vira…

https://www.preventionaccess.org/reso…

https://www.catie.ca/fr/pdm/printemps…

Produit par Charlie David et Nico Stagias pour Border2Border Entertainment. https://Border2Border.ca

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U=U You've seen it, but what does it mean?

U=U. Maybe you’ve seen this posted on someone’s dating profile but weren’t sure what it meant. Well you’ve landed in the right spot because we’re excited to share what U=U means and hope you’ll share the good news with your friends! When someone says or writes U=U it means undetectable=untransmittable. Cool, now let’s break that down further with the science.

The science is clear. When a person living with HIV is effectively on treatment and has an undetectable viral load, there is zero risk of HIV being transmitted through sex. Times have changed. And this is great news! The Gay Men’s Sexual Health Alliance presents a cute and campy glimpse into how advances in treatments for HIV are changing how we have the sex we want.

This video portrays the message of U=U, or undetectable equals untransmittable, and how it is transforming the relationship gay and bisexual men have to HIV, and to each other. The message of U=U, developed by the Prevention Access Campaign, gives an opportunity for gay and bisexual men to embrace a new era in the HIV epidemic.

U=U provides the gay community with the opportunity to reflect upon, and celebrate the successes in, the fight to end HIV, and to focus on the tools we have available to end this epidemic. Key to ending the epidemic is ending HIV stigma. An important way to address stigma is to be informed about the current realities of HIV and HIV related science.

And the science is clear, when a person living with HIV is effectively on treatment and has an undetectable viral load, there is zero risk of HIV being transmitted through sex.

Actor Addie Batson enjoys his bubble bath while talking on the phone. https://youtu.be/-1EQH5t9t-U

For more information on U=U, check out

https://thesexyouwant.ca/undetectable…

https://www.preventionaccess.org/reso…

https://www.catie.ca/en/pif/spring-20…

See how the U=U Bathtub video was created with interviews from cast and crew.

This video series for Gay Men’s Sexual Health was written, directed and produced by Charlie David and Nico Stagias of Border2Border Entertainment. https://Border2Border.ca

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Polyamory – PolyLove documentary

men and women explore polyamory in Polylove documentary

PolyLove is a new investigative documentary that explores polyamory, non-monogamy and the journey to redefine a ‘relationship’.  Brace yourself, because we are going to a place where bravery and honesty are essential.  A place where loving someone enough to set them free isn’t just a trite metaphor – it’s essential to your personal and relationship growth.  

Single    Married    It’s Complicated

In North America, 48% of marriages end in divorce.*  In business, if your product is failing for half of your customers, then you need to fix it or offer something better.    * SOURCE  ‘Divorce demography’ Stats Canada 2013

Non-monogamy and polyamory demand radical rethinking of our societal constructs.  It’s not about breaking what’s unbroken.  It’s about examining why ‘cheating’ is more socially forgivable than discussing the option of non-monogamy or polyamory with those we love. 

More and more people are experimenting with monogamish and polyamorous relationships. We commit to each other, but have a porous boundary around our relationship, meaning we’ve agreed that it’s OK for either of us to express romantic feelings toward other people or to be physically intimate with other people, so long as we’re honest and transparent about our intentions with one another.

Men and women in relationship groupings.  Three sets of feet stick out from the end of a bed depicting polyamory.

The thought is that these things don’t diminish the integrity of a relationship. Rather, they may deepen the understanding of each other’s wants and desires, and give us the space to grow independently, without growing apart.  There’s even a new word for the emotion of feeling happy for a loved one’s bliss in another relationship.  Goodbye jealousy, hello ‘compersion’. 

So why non-monogamy and polyamory now?

Well, people haven’t changed much, but their environment has. Just think: Monogamy established itself thousands of years ago, when society was ruled by scarcity of resources and potential mates were in limited supply.

We’re now living in a period of great (though unequally distributed) abundance where our basic needs are sufficiently met, and reproduction is a choice. As a result, the reasons to be with a single mate for life are less urgent.  With the rising ambivalence toward commitment, statistically most millennials will put off marriage indefinitely. In place of monogamous pairings, hookup culture flourishes and “open relationships” are commonplace. These are merely rational economic responses to excess inventory and changing expectations of romance. Viewed in this context, conventional monogamy is getting long in the tooth.

But just because more young people are choosing to say, “I don’t” than “I do” doesn’t mean monogamy is irrelevant.  It just means that there’s now more than one option for building meaningful and satisfying relationships. 

DIVE DEEPER:   If you’re interested to learn more about polyamory, watch the PolyLove documentary and check out the Mating Season episode of Shadowlands where three men explore an unconventional relationship in the 1950s.  

shadows of three men against a tent in the TV series Shadowlands where polyamory is explored.
The threesome scene in the Mating Season episode of Shadowlands

Some great reading materials include the non-monogamy intro reader classic, The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton.  For my personal favourite on the topic try What Love Is: And What It Could Be by Carrie Jenkins.  

If you enjoy audiobooks you may wish to try USA Today Bestselling author Ella Frank’s four audiobook series that explores polyamory in Confessions. 
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