Polyamory – PolyLove documentary

men and women explore polyamory in Polylove documentary

PolyLove is a new investigative documentary that explores polyamory, non-monogamy and the journey to redefine a ‘relationship’.  Brace yourself, because we are going to a place where bravery and honesty are essential.  A place where loving someone enough to set them free isn’t just a trite metaphor – it’s essential to your personal and relationship growth.  

Single    Married    It’s Complicated

In North America, 48% of marriages end in divorce.*  In business, if your product is failing for half of your customers, then you need to fix it or offer something better.    * SOURCE  ‘Divorce demography’ Stats Canada 2013

Non-monogamy and polyamory demand radical rethinking of our societal constructs.  It’s not about breaking what’s unbroken.  It’s about examining why ‘cheating’ is more socially forgivable than discussing the option of non-monogamy or polyamory with those we love. 

More and more people are experimenting with monogamish and polyamorous relationships. We commit to each other, but have a porous boundary around our relationship, meaning we’ve agreed that it’s OK for either of us to express romantic feelings toward other people or to be physically intimate with other people, so long as we’re honest and transparent about our intentions with one another.

Men and women in relationship groupings.  Three sets of feet stick out from the end of a bed depicting polyamory.

The thought is that these things don’t diminish the integrity of a relationship. Rather, they may deepen the understanding of each other’s wants and desires, and give us the space to grow independently, without growing apart.  There’s even a new word for the emotion of feeling happy for a loved one’s bliss in another relationship.  Goodbye jealousy, hello ‘compersion’. 

So why non-monogamy and polyamory now?

Well, people haven’t changed much, but their environment has. Just think: Monogamy established itself thousands of years ago, when society was ruled by scarcity of resources and potential mates were in limited supply.

We’re now living in a period of great (though unequally distributed) abundance where our basic needs are sufficiently met, and reproduction is a choice. As a result, the reasons to be with a single mate for life are less urgent.  With the rising ambivalence toward commitment, statistically most millennials will put off marriage indefinitely. In place of monogamous pairings, hookup culture flourishes and “open relationships” are commonplace. These are merely rational economic responses to excess inventory and changing expectations of romance. Viewed in this context, conventional monogamy is getting long in the tooth.

But just because more young people are choosing to say, “I don’t” than “I do” doesn’t mean monogamy is irrelevant.  It just means that there’s now more than one option for building meaningful and satisfying relationships. 

DIVE DEEPER:   If you’re interested to learn more about polyamory, watch the PolyLove documentary and check out the Mating Season episode of Shadowlands where three men explore an unconventional relationship in the 1950s.  

shadows of three men against a tent in the TV series Shadowlands where polyamory is explored.
The threesome scene in the Mating Season episode of Shadowlands

Some great reading materials include the non-monogamy intro reader classic, The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton.  For my personal favourite on the topic try What Love Is: And What It Could Be by Carrie Jenkins.  

If you enjoy audiobooks you may wish to try USA Today Bestselling author Ella Frank’s four audiobook series that explores polyamory in Confessions. 
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Honey, I’m a male stripper. Straight talk about a taboo job in series ‘I’m a Stripper’

male stripper - I'm a Stripper - Brent Ray Fraser

Hearing the phrase, ‘I’m a male stripper’ may not seem like something you’d hear regularly.   But I live in Montreal, a city that is alive with sexual expression.

I like to make films about sexuality — how we as a society embrace or are repulsed by it, what some see as artistic expression and others view as pornography, and where the seeds for these often very visceral reactions begin.

male stripper - I'M A STRIPPER 4AMW or America’s Most Wanted is a male stripper troupe of all Black men who tour in the USA & Canada. 

A few years ago I started my hesitant transition from on camera (actor, TV host) to behind the camera (director, producer) and have discovered I love interviewing people and following their lives in documentary. My instincts told me to follow my curiosity and in the case of my miniseries I’m a Stripper — that’s hot dudes who have entered the profession of male stripper. 

Sometimes being dumb-ass dudes, sometimes being surprisingly emotional and always refreshingly honest.

male stripper - I'M A STRIPPER - Jakub STEFANO

Jakub Stefano is a male stripper who makes his money webcam modeling in episode 5 of I’m a Stripper.

I’m a Stripper is entertainment but it also delves into a provocative new era of sexual liberation and expression. Living in a post feminist era we are now bombarded with the male form undressed for pleasure, for provocation, and as a catalyst in advertising and media.

So in a world that’s approaching a semblance of gender equality – what’s it like to be a male stripper?

male stripper - I'M A STRIPPER 4 AMW show

The male stripper costumes at an AMW show are unique but adored by their enthusiastic audiences of women. 

I wanted to explore the questions of:

1) Are we reaching equalization in the exploitation of the sexes?

2) How are young men being conditioned to perceive their own bodies, their constructs of masculinity, and the disintegration of labels around sexuality?

male stripper - I'm a Stripper - GABRIEL Clark

Male stripper Gabriel Clark finds balance engaged to a woman but dating men.

‘Boys will be boys’ as the saying goes and we were invited onto a pleasure island while filming I’m a Stripper. As a young twenty-something living in Vancouver, I witnessed several handsome friends suddenly working in the adult industry — either as strippers or in video. I always wondered how much $ was enough for them to say yes to that world and the lifestyle that went with it.

To what extent will a young person push their body, their will, or their sexual preference in order to grab some quick cash?

The answer of course is not easy and the young (and sometimes not so young) men in the profession of male stripper we worked with presented their own set of motivations — everything from lust for dollars, an addiction to attention, or simply loving to dance!

male stripper - I'M A STRIPPER 5 Brent Ray Fraser
Brent Ray Fraser explains being ‘Artsexual’ in episode 5.

Directing this documentary was such an adventure because I was able to immerse myself outside my comfort zone, grow and be challenged by the experience. There were many times while interviewing when I had to keep my fist planted firmly under my jaw so it wouldn’t fall to the floor.

These guys are shocking, competitive, profane, yet endearing. Like moss — their charm will grow on you as it feeds from you so keep some dollar bills nearby.

I’m a Stripper miniseries is available on all your favorite platforms including…

  Waiting in the Wings on Google Play     Waiting in the Wings 2

 

 

 

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