Transgender – Protecting Human Rights

A woman plays pool.

Transgender or gender non-conforming people are one of the most at-risk and disadvantaged groups in society.  Alarmingly, most Transgender people have experienced discrimination, harassment and even violence because their gender identity or gender expression is different from their birth-assigned sex.

Danica Rain, woman, mother, yoga enthusiast, transgender rights advocate.
Danica Rain – woman, mother, yoga enthusiast and Transgender rights advocate. 

Danica Rain is by far the emotional heart of our documentary Balls.  She was so courageous to share her life journey with us; everything from the separation from her wife and daughter, to living homeless, to being drug addicted and to all the mental and physical abuse she has had to endure while transitioning gender.  

Woman with daughter in park sit on a yoga mat.
Danica sits with her daughter in a park. 

There was many a time during our interview with her that the “fourth wall” of the “subjective” camera was broken.  We cried with Danica as she revealed and relived her most violent and heart wrenching memories. Though Danica has suffered a lot of pain and heartache, her story ends on a very positive note.  Like a fairytale princess, she is in a committed relationship with a devoted man that has swept her off her feet.  Not only has she reconnected with her daughter but she has also fully transitioned.    


At the time of filming, Danica was researching and preparing to have her confirmation surgery realized.  Though we were not able to document it, that dream finally came true late last year in Bangkok, Thailand.  


Danica is warm and beautiful person who not only transitioned her gender but also evolved her sexuality.  Once a heterosexual man, she is now a straight identified woman.  The transgender experience, in all its fluidity, continues to show us that love, life, sex and sexuality are not rigid and inflexible truths.  There is hope for humanity yet.  Thank you Danica.

A nurse performs a testicular test on a man on the street. 


As much as the Balls documentary was a testicular “tell-all”, everything from testicular cancer to testicular art and everything in between, this doc was also an exploration of masculinity and it’s ever-changing face.  The new masculinity for this new millennium is a softer beast that has a vulnerable side and is not afraid to show it.  Whether you have two, one or no testicles at all, “having balls is just being sure about yourself and also being kind and generous to the people in your path and the people in your life”. (Carey Gray)

Explore more stories of Gender Confirmation with Farra N. Hyte and Angel from our series Drag Heals.  

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Polyamory – PolyLove documentary

men and women explore polyamory in Polylove documentary

PolyLove is a new investigative documentary that explores polyamory, non-monogamy and the journey to redefine a ‘relationship’.  Brace yourself, because we are going to a place where bravery and honesty are essential.  A place where loving someone enough to set them free isn’t just a trite metaphor – it’s essential to your personal and relationship growth.  

Single    Married    It’s Complicated

In North America, 48% of marriages end in divorce.*  In business, if your product is failing for half of your customers, then you need to fix it or offer something better.    * SOURCE  ‘Divorce demography’ Stats Canada 2013

Non-monogamy and polyamory demand radical rethinking of our societal constructs.  It’s not about breaking what’s unbroken.  It’s about examining why ‘cheating’ is more socially forgivable than discussing the option of non-monogamy or polyamory with those we love. 

More and more people are experimenting with monogamish and polyamorous relationships. We commit to each other, but have a porous boundary around our relationship, meaning we’ve agreed that it’s OK for either of us to express romantic feelings toward other people or to be physically intimate with other people, so long as we’re honest and transparent about our intentions with one another.

Men and women in relationship groupings.  Three sets of feet stick out from the end of a bed depicting polyamory.

The thought is that these things don’t diminish the integrity of a relationship. Rather, they may deepen the understanding of each other’s wants and desires, and give us the space to grow independently, without growing apart.  There’s even a new word for the emotion of feeling happy for a loved one’s bliss in another relationship.  Goodbye jealousy, hello ‘compersion’. 

So why non-monogamy and polyamory now?

Well, people haven’t changed much, but their environment has. Just think: Monogamy established itself thousands of years ago, when society was ruled by scarcity of resources and potential mates were in limited supply.

We’re now living in a period of great (though unequally distributed) abundance where our basic needs are sufficiently met, and reproduction is a choice. As a result, the reasons to be with a single mate for life are less urgent.  With the rising ambivalence toward commitment, statistically most millennials will put off marriage indefinitely. In place of monogamous pairings, hookup culture flourishes and “open relationships” are commonplace. These are merely rational economic responses to excess inventory and changing expectations of romance. Viewed in this context, conventional monogamy is getting long in the tooth.

But just because more young people are choosing to say, “I don’t” than “I do” doesn’t mean monogamy is irrelevant.  It just means that there’s now more than one option for building meaningful and satisfying relationships. 

DIVE DEEPER:   If you’re interested to learn more about polyamory, watch the PolyLove documentary and check out the Mating Season episode of Shadowlands where three men explore an unconventional relationship in the 1950s.  

shadows of three men against a tent in the TV series Shadowlands where polyamory is explored.
The threesome scene in the Mating Season episode of Shadowlands

Some great reading materials include the non-monogamy intro reader classic, The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton.  For my personal favourite on the topic try What Love Is: And What It Could Be by Carrie Jenkins.  

If you enjoy audiobooks you may wish to try USA Today Bestselling author Ella Frank’s four audiobook series that explores polyamory in Confessions. 
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Dating Unlocked – Audience feedback

Anisha Joshi, host of Dating Unlocked dancing against a pink background.

I’m reaching out today because we’re seeking audience feedback on the pilot episode of Dating Unlocked that my partner and I came up with on one of our drives between Toronto and Montreal.  It often happens this way – we’ll be listening to music or a podcast on the nearly 6 hour drive and then at some point start talking about TV show ideas. 

Sometimes they’re good, often they’re not or we may discover another company has just launched a very similar show.  The creative process can be challenging in that way – everyone develops their content in a relatively quiet or secretive way and then one day – bam! There’s a new show.  Because we’re all influenced by so many factors – our place in history, the news, cultural trends, music, art, a conversation overheard in line at the grocery store it’s not uncommon for very similar shows to emerge from unrelated companies in different geographical locations.  

My partner, Patrick, coming from the world of health technology and currently eyebrows deep in his PhD work has a very different perspective and experience base than yours truly.  I think that’s why we have so much fun creating show ideas together – our brains just work in very different ways.

Anisha Joshi, host of Dating Unlocked dancing with a wind fan.
Anisha Joshi, host of Dating Unlocked gets her groove on. 

On one of these drives we came up with the concept for Dating Unlocked and this year we held a casting and found a host we fell in love with (and hope you will too!), shot the pilot episode and are now seeking some feedback.  If you live in Canada, the network (OUTtv) is sharing this landing page where you can screen the episode and then fill in a short questionnaire.  WATCH IT FREE HERE in Canada.  

Before we go to series it would be great to know- what you liked, what you didn’t and how we can make it even better. If you know other people who enjoy dating shows, we invite you to share the link with them as well.

If you don’t live in Canada, and are interested to see the show, we’ve currently made it available on my storefront here.   We’ll be adding more platforms in the future and if you sign up for the newsletter we’ll be sure to let you know. 

Thanks so much, we know how busy everyone is – we appreciate your time and input.

Charlie David

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